Setting boundaries at Christmas

There are times when we can be really good at setting boundaries and saying no and then there are times when we can really struggle. Christmas is one of those times where competing – and
constant – demands mean we struggle to keep our boundaries in check. So here are our tips to help you with that this holiday season.

Know your boundaries.

While it doesn’t sound like a ‘top tip’ it is important to put it at the top. In order to reinforce your boundaries you need to know what they are and when they are being pushed. Do a bit of self awareness around what your needs are this Christmas. What is it that you want to get out of the holidays? What don’t you want to do? And who do you want to spend time with?
By knowing your boundaries it is easier to say yes – and no – over the season.

Keep it simple.

While a lot of boundary setting is in relation to being with other people and the demands they place on you, don’t forget about your own boundaries. Start by pairing back and keeping things simple. Cut back on presents, social gatherings, food and even alcohol. You don’t have to buy in to the hype, make choices that work for you.

No is a complete sentence.

It’s ok to say no. If you don’t want to see someone or do something give yourself permission not to. A lot of people make a big deal out of the social aspects to Christmas but they can be draining. If
you are not feeling up to it, just say so. You don’t always need an excuse on hand just be clear on what your boundaries are.

Take the pressure off – yourself.

Once you have set your boundaries, don’t stress about it. Be kind and honour yourself. You have
put boundaries in place so that you too can have a happy and stress free Christmas. Keep
reminding yourself of that.

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